Leslie C
This month, we’re stressing to Get Yourself Tested (GYT) regularly. Gathering up the nerve to get tested for STDs can be hard, but you don't have to go it alone! We encourage you and your partner to Get Tested Together! It’s necessary for both of you to not only be on the same page about your values and beliefs regarding sex, but it’s also essential for you both to be completely honest with one another, especially regarding your testing history and status.
It may be embarrassing and seem insulting to ask your partner to get tested for STDs with you. You or your partner may feel as though there is no trust between you two, but actually, getting tested together can help empower your relationship and build on the trust needed to have a healthy relationship. Asking your partner to get tested together doesn’t mean you’re ridiculing your partner. Asking your partner to get tested with you means you care about your partner’s health and well-being, as well as the future of your relationship. If you and your partner are sexually active, and/or you have friends that are sexually active, encourage them to get an STD test too.
How to ask your partner to GTT (Get Tested Together):
“I know we’ve been talking about having sex, but before we do, it’s important that we make sure we’re BOTH safe with each other – and I don’t just mean using birth control. I care about you and because I do, I’d like for us to be cautious and get tested for STDs TOGETHER, so that we’re better prepared.”
If your partner is hesitant and does not want to get tested for STDs, let them know that not getting tested could put both of you at risk. What you don’t know can have a serious impact on your lives, and many STDs don't show symptoms so you won't know you have one unless you get tested. If both, or either one of you, test positive, the doctor or other health professionals at the clinic will help you figure out the next steps to take, including treatment.