Abstinence means not having any type of sex -- vaginal, oral, or anal. It"s the only guaranteed way to protect yourself from pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
Most teens choose not to have sex for different reasons, but most likely because they are not ready to have sex. There are no exact rules about when is the "right time" to have sex. Everyone is ready to have sex at different times in their lives, which is perfectly okay, perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed about.
You may have asked yourself, "How do I know if I am ready to have sex?" Even though you are the only who can decide when and with who you have sex for the first time, it's important to ask yourself the following questions to help determine if you are indeed ready to lose your virginity.
- Are you having sex because you truly want to have sex? If someone else is pressuring you to have sex like a friend or boyfriend or girlfriend, then do NOT have sex. Keep in mind, sex is only enjoyable and pleasurable when both people want to do it.
- How long have you known the person you are considering to have sex with? Trusting and being comfortable with the person you are thinking of having sex with is super important. Being in a healthy relationship that makes you happy, safe and comfortable is a good place to start.
- Can I talk about sex? If you or your partner are not comfortable with talking about sex, then you are definitely not ready to have sex. It"s important to have an open conversation with your partner so you don't have to deal with all those feelings alone.
- How much do I know about sex? Even though you may have learned some things about sex already, it's important to get fully educated on all the facts. Learn how to protect yourself from STDs and unwanted pregnancy.
Hope these tips help! All of this information can be accessed online or through your smartphone for free and without the permission of your parents. Good luck, have fun, and be safe!