By Leslie C.
Talking about sex with your parents is seen as taboo. You just don’t because you already know what they’re going to say: “Don’t do it!” “You’re not ready,” “If we find out that you’re having sex, then x, y, z.” Yeah, no kidding...it’s frightening. But it doesn't have to be!
Cut them some slack (you’ll probably want it someday, too!)
Your parents might not have had any experience talking about sex with THEIR parents – maybe it was something they just discovered on their own because sex was simply an unacceptable topic to talk about. Your parents might have traditional values attached to sexual intimacy – I know this may seem old-fashioned now, but knowing your parents’ values about abstinence or delaying sexual activity can help you in many more ways than you think. Perhaps, you’ll someday want to pass on similar values to your kids. Maybe your parents will simply not approach you with the subject, and as much as that sucks, it’ll be up to you to find the answers you’re searching for, either with them, with another trusted adult, or with the help of a website, such as http://www.talkwithyourkids.org/.
How can you change the talk about sex?
Maybe it’s easier to think about this by asking yourself how you would or would’ve liked your parents to approach the topic with you. Or ask yourself how you could improve on what your parents told you. Remember, you’re part of a new generation in which other issues such as gender identity (how you identify) and sexuality (who you’re attracted to) are far more talked about, supported, and accepted now than before.
Some tips to consider for when you do talk to your parents about sex:
- Remain calm – remember, your parents will probably be happy that you've come to them!
- Listen to them – pay attention and share some of your experiences as you see fit.
- Talk about safety – let your parents know that you will always prioritize safety.
- Show them you know the facts – you can introduce them to TeenSource and let them know you have done your research!