Ready or Not - Part Six

Rachel* is a 17 year old high school senior. This is her story.

Sex. I’m not really the type of person who freaks out about it. I like it, I’m a curious person and I have had sex with three people so far. It feels really good to write that down for you all because sometimes I feel it’s a fact I have to hide.

                                                                                                              “Sex. I’m not really the type of person who

                                                                                                                                      freaks out about it. I like it…”


My first time was a few years ago and not much to say about it except it was sort of awkward but not bad. We dated for another six months or so after the fact and we always used protection!

The second guy is a situation I can only say I am glad to not be in now. We had sex which was cool at first but then he got weird. He would try to make me do it at times I didn’t want to. We would be watching a movie or hanging out in his backyard and, I mean, sometimes I wasn’t in the mood. He also tried to convince me to do it without a condom because I told him I had done it ONE time without one before. I also told him that I freaked out every day for months after that even though I took the morning after pill, but I guess he wasn’t listening to that part. I had to go get tested and it was so stressful, I wasn’t about to do that again.

He kept pressuring me and I kept saying no and eventually he dumped me. Don’t feel bad for me, he was a jerk. I’m just upset I didn’t dump him first!

My current beau and I also hook up but we also like to go on jogs together and watch T.V. He’s sooo sweet, and I think for the first time I might actually be in love.  We already talked about our plans for next year and starting college and we are gonna try to stay together.

                                                                                                  “…just because I have had sex doesn’t mean I’m down for

                                                                                                                                                    anything or want it anytime."


I really hate that because I have had sex with three people to some people that makes me a slut. I’m not a slut. I don’t have sex with everybody or anybody. I have sex with the people who I want, when I want to.  I know that just because I have had sex doesn’t mean I’m down for anything or want it anytime.

To me calling someone a slut is an attempt to take away their self esteem, but I know what I want and I make my own decisions. I am in control of my life. The worst is when girls who claim to be friends call each other that. That’s not friendship and that’s just pathetic.  I challenge anyone, man or woman to think twice before using the "S" word again.